I always thought that in order to move on with your life after someone did something terrible, you needed to forgive them.
I now realize that forgiving that person is not really necessary. Rather, I simply need to make peace with that person’s actions and move on. Ultimately it is all about me. After all it is my life.
So, it’s not necessary to forgive my ex for having a multi year affair or multiple affairs. I’ve reached the point where I really don’t care. I’ve moved on. I can move forward in my life without forgiving him for what he’s done. I was and am not responsible for his actions. He made the choice to seek solace outside our marriage. His choice.
I mourned the loss of my house, my security and the future we planned together. I have the support of my amazing friends and someone who is teaching me how to love and be loved again.
I am over it and I can live the rest of my life without forgiving him.